It’s OK to feel your feelings.
Whatever your thoughts and feelings at this time, they are yours and they are just as valid, real and important as anyone else’s, even if they don’t seem to make sense.
Over the next few weeks there will be extensive coverage of the death of Queen Elizabeth II. This will mean very different things to different people. Media coverage already has examples of people who are deeply saddened, angry, scared, or indifferent. It’s normal for feelings to be heightened in these circumstances, for people to have a wide range of responses and occasionally our own strong feelings mean that we lose sight that others may be having a different experience, which can lead to tension and upset. There is no ‘right’ way to feel. Whatever you are feeling is right for you.
One thing that might be unexpected is responses for those who have had their own losses, recently or even a while ago. When a high profile person dies and it seems to be everywhere it can bring up old feelings, “out of nowhere”. For example we might find ourselves suddenly crying in a way that seems out of proportion to what we think about the news. And just as in any grieving, we can experience a wide range of different feelings, all of which might feel overwhelming, especially when they come one after the other in quick succession. This is part of grief, and although it can be hard to feel this way, it will pass. If it seems that you are stuck in these feelings, then please reach out for help. There’s more details on how MYPAS can help below.
It’s also common for people to feel overwhelmed and as though they can’t escape coverage that brings up uncomfortable feelings for them. If this sounds like you or someone you know, please remember that it is completely okay have your feelings and it’s completely okay to choose to step away from things that make you feel uncomfortable.
That might mean putting a time-out on some apps, choosing not to watch terrestrial TV, not to take part in conversations that are making you feel uncomfortable or remembering to take extra care looking after yourself.
If this sounds like you or someone you know, I really want to encourage you to let people know that you’re finding things hard. Letting someone at school know how you are feeling lets you have a conversation about what you can manage and when you can’t, what arrangements are in place so you feel supported.
MYPAS can help through our drop-in sessions at East Lothian and Midlothian schools or the digital drop-in service for young people aged 12-21. Check with your school for when staff are available for you to pop by and look out for posters online and in school. Our digital drop-in is staffed by our workers and operates every week day from 3.30 – 5.30pm. If you have something you need information on, if you need advice or guidance on how you are feeling, please get in touch.
Whatever your thoughts and feelings at this time, they are yours and they are just as valid, real and important as anyone else’s, even if they don’t seem to make sense. Remember that it is important to look after yourself as you go through this experience and that help is out there.
